How to Rock Your Single Life

No matter how you actually feel about being single

One of the biggest complaints I hear in the single community is that family and friends make you feel bad about being single. They make you feel like there’s something wrong with you, especially if you embrace singlehood and aren’t spending every waking moment trying to “land a man.” They continually ask you embarrassing and downright rude questions about your relationship status. And all you want to do is avoid the topic altogether. But that won’t solve the problem, will it? Single people have had their relationship status come into question for millennia and no matter how much we seem to progress as a society, this never seems to change. What if I told you that the change starts with YOU? What if I told you that the path to single acceptance starts here and you could be one of the ones who blazes that trail? I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” What if you could start to flip the script and make things easier not only for yourself, but for the next single person and the next and the next? Here’s how to increase your confidence about being single, live your truth no matter what that truth is, and become a role model for other singles.

Believe in yourself and others will believe in you, too

Don’t you hate it when you feel like you’re getting along just fine on your own and then someone asks you the dreaded, “Why are you single” question? It just seems to take all the wind out of your sails. I used to hate that feeling, too, until I figured out that confidence was the antidote. If you have a confident answer to that question and you’re confident about being single in general, you can not only hold your head high and brave whatever questions and opinions come at you, but you can start to change the way people view singlehood and change the way single people are treated. One of the best ways to have confidence in your singlehood is to realize that there’s nothing wrong with it and there’s nothing wrong with you. Maybe you just haven’t found the right person yet. Maybe you’re focusing on yourself right now. Or maybe, just maybe, you’ve created such an enjoyable life for yourself as a single person that you’re not looking to change it anytime soon. Regardless of where you’re at, if you hold your single head high and embrace who you are right now, people will start to view you differently and view singlehood as a whole differently, too. Wouldn’t it be great if instead of someone asking, “Why are you single,” they asked, “What’s your next adventure?”

Live your truth

Do you believe that there’s something wrong with being single? You might, but if you really think about it logically then you know that there isn’t. So, if you believe that there’s nothing wrong with being single, are you living that truth? Are you figuring out what you really want out of life, setting goals, and doing what it takes to achieve them? Or are you scrolling the dating apps because you’ll feel guilty if you’re not at least “trying.” One of the best ways to flip the script on the way singles are viewed and become a role model for other singles is to Own Your Alone and live your best life. Right now. Get rid of your negative thoughts about being single, figure out who you really are and what you want, and make a plan to live your happiest, best life. Right now. A lot of times we want to say that we’re perfectly fine being single, but then we do things to the contrary, like obsess over the dating apps because that’s what everyone else is doing or scrounge up a date to the party because that’s what’s expected of us. You know the saying, “Well behaved women rarely make history?” I would actually change that to “well behaved people.” In this case, single people who go with the flow of what “everyone else” thinks is right rarely pave the way for other singles. Figure out what your best single life looks like and start living it. Right now!

Become the change you want to see

If you could wave your magic wand and change society’s viewpoint on being single, you’d have done it already. If you could erase the stereotypes, squash the judgment, eradicate the unfair practices, and reverse the negativity, of course you would, right? None of us has a magic wand, but we do have something magical – the ability to lead by example. If you want something to change, you can’t quietly go along with the pack and hope that someone else does it. You have to set an example for others and you have to do it for two reasons. Either your intention is to change someone’s thinking about singlehood, such as those in your immediate circle, or it’s to lay a path for another single person to follow. Becoming a “model singleton” not only shows non-singles that single is okay, even enviable, it also lets other single people who are struggling with the pressures to couple-up know that they’re not alone and there are single people out there who are rocking their lives. One of the best ways to become more confident in your beliefs is to live them to the fullest and one of the best ways to make an impact on someone else is to become a role model for them. Exemplifying the way you’d like to see single people viewed helps bring it to fruition. Have you ever put on your best clothes and walked around like a million bucks? I bet you felt like a million bucks, right? And then others started to treat you like a million bucks, too? Nothing changes until YOU change!

There you go! If you want to be treated better as a single person you have to change your own thinking about being single from negative to positive and you have to have the confidence to own it. If you want singles to be viewed differently and you want to improve things in society as we move forward, it starts with you. When you boost your confidence in who you are, start living your best life as you are right now, and set an example for others, you set the stage for changing viewpoints to happen. You now have the inspiration and encouragement to go out there and conquer the world as a savvy single person. You have everything you need to rock your single life. Right now. And you just never know who you might inspire in the process!

Leslie Kaz, coach for single women

I help single women get from where they are to where they want to be by overcoming their sadness and starting to live their best lives through mindset and lifestyle changes. Contact me to learn how it’s possible to live a single, blissful life.

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