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4th of July and Nowhere to Go?

5 alternatives to the summer holiday BBQ

Summer is loaded with holidays – Memorial Day, Father’s Day, 4th of July, Labor Day – and traditionally these holidays are celebrated with BBQs in someone’s backyard, burgers and dogs on the grill, beer in the cooler, lawn chairs strewn about. Either that or a camping trip, which is just the backyard BBQ with some trees and a lake added, and less comfortable sleeping conditions that night. But what if you have neither a BBQ nor a camping trip on your summer holiday horizon?

I’ve spent many a 4th of July as described above, but somewhere along the way all of those invitations dried up. People got too old to want to camp anymore, campsite reservations got too hard to come by, or traffic became fun-prohibitive. Even the BBQs disappeared. People moved, the parties got too big to handle, or the threat of DUI wasn’t worth it.

It’s daunting when you’re single, there’s a summer holiday approaching and you have no plans. What are you supposed to do? Have a BBQ by yourself? Go camping by yourself? You certainly could, but I’m guessing not many want to do that.

It’s easy to get bogged down in tradition and wanting to do what “everyone else is doing.” So much so that you might feel “less than” if you don’t have those plans. Either that or you do have those plans, but you’re tired of seeing the same old people and answering the same old questions about your love life. No matter your sitch, here are 5 ideas of things you can do for this summer’s holidays that involve nary a hot dog nor a sleeping bag.

  1. Plan an indoor outing (is that an oxymoron?). It’s hot in the summer, right? And in some places, like AZ, it’s too hot to even think about doing anything outdoors. Go to the mall, see a movie, go to a museum, have a nice brunch, lunch or happy hour. You can do these either by yourself, with a friend or with a group of friends.
  2. Have a binge fest. After a particularly bad breakup, I once spent an entire 3-day 4th of July weekend bingeing Sex and the City. I’ll never forget that weekend. Not only was it completely out of character for me at the time, I actually had a great time and felt ready to face the world on Monday.
  3. Do a “you” day. If you’re hell bent on spending time outdoors, why not take in some nature by yourself? Plan a long hike or bike ride to a destination like a lake or scenic overlook. Pack yourself a wonderful lunch and make a day of it. You have a more personal experience of nature when you’re by yourself.
  4. Use your time wisely. We’ve all heard this saying before, but how often do projects that need doing go undone because you can’t find the time? Not exactly sexy to spend a summer holiday weeding out your papers or cleaning out the garage, but think of how much better you’ll feel when it’s done and done!
  5. Do something altruistic. Volunteer to take a group of kids out for pizza, take an elderly person to the park, or feed shelter pets. Holidays can be particularly difficult for non-profits because all their regular volunteers are camping or having BBQs. Imagine going back to work on Monday and telling everyone how you spent your weekend saving the world!
Leslie Kaz, coach for single women

I help single women get from where they are to where they want to be by overcoming their sadness and starting to live their best lives through mindset and lifestyle changes. Contact me to learn how it’s possible to live a single, blissful life.

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